Emotional Intensity

I am noticing an uptick in emotional intensity for a number of people around me. I'm not sure what it means but it is interesting to note that it seems to be connected to some rather harsh self-loathing. Any attempt to bring compassion to the self in these cases is generally met with great difficulty even imagining allowing anything like compassion toward what has been judged as unacceptable and unlovable.

I think this increase in intensity is good news. It tells me there's also a ripeness for change. When the level of discomfort becomes unbearable somethings gotta give and if that's the case for you, I'm here to tell you that something is you. It may well be time to surrender, to give up the fight and give yourself over to the process that is taking place within. It may look like its happening outside of you such as a loss of some kind, more fighting with a partner or some kind of bad news that feels overwhelming but it doesn't mean those things are here to make you unhappy. You could see it from the perspective that they are in your life to set you free at last from some debilitating belief or traumatic memory.


Fighting the feelings by defending, analyzing, being reasonable and staying focused on outer events will only intensify the pain. Instead you can stop, take a nice full breath and bring your energy back into yourself by shifting your focus to what's going on in your body. Be fully present to your inner world for a few moments without judging what's going on but rather being compassionate with yourself for what you're experiencing. This is all part of the human condition we all experience from time to time. It's ok, there's nothing wrong with you. You are most likely being shown something that has been festering for a very long time. Be curious, be gentle, be kind toward yourself. It's what you really want isn't it?